Having gone through five years of part- and full-time eldercare myself, I found it necessary during a recent visit to point out to a dear friend, who is caregiving for her 86-year-old mother, that my friend is increasingly exhibiting signs of frustration, resentment and being overwhelmed. My observations/criticisms were not appreciated and my friend got defensive, argumentative and curtailed her visit.
At this point, I think the best thing I can do is suggest external, professional support, although she seems loathe to seek personal therapy. I was hoping that there might be a caregiver support group in her area. She lives in Park Slope, Brooklyn. I'd appreciate any advice and recommendations you might have. Thank you.
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