Fearless Caregiver Profile: Terry Williams

How did you become the caregiver for your loved one?

My father was dying of complications from diabetes (renal failure, unable to dialyze). He was in the VA hospital in a coma. My cousin, Lois was a CNA. I watched her care for him and she was so amazing. I fell in love with the care that she was giving.

Has your relationship changed with the loved one that you are caring for? If so how?

Sadly, in a matter of days, my father passed away. I then became a nurse aide and cared for most of the elderly in my family, mainly and lastly, my mother. my relationship with my mother was intense and I loved her more. She was the hardest case for me.  

What is the hardest thing about being a caregiver and the most rewarding thing?

The hardest thing was watching her decline. The most rewarding was knowing that I did everything in my power to make her comfortable and happy until the end.

What advice would you give to other caregivers?

I would advise other caregivers to always imagine yourself in the loved one's place to attempt to understand how they must be feeling. Meet them where they are. If you need help, reach out to someone.

In ten words or less, what has caregiving taught you?

Caregiving has taught me humbleness and gratefulness. We are not indispensable.

Describe a situation where being a Fearless Caregiver helped you succeed?

In 36 years of caregiving, there were so many situations that helped me to become fearless. The main one is overcoming the fear of death and caring for others who are dying. No fear, just love. 

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