Fearless Caregiver Profile: Ann Popenfoose

How did you become the caregiver for your loved one?

I was the only one, other than a sister, who lived too far away, that was willing to be a caregiver. 

Has your relationship changed with the loved one that you are caring for? If so how?

No, we were close before. Are close now. But she just can't remember or communicate as well.

What is the hardest thing about being a caregiver and the most rewarding thing?

Seeing her when she has a bad day, or seems to not be doing well. Most rewarding: Seeing her happy(laughing) on her good days.

What advice would you give to other caregivers?

Find as much support as possible. You will need it. Especially if you can't count on family to help. Join a support group. It's okay to get days off, whenever possible.

In ten words or less, what has caregiving taught you?

Love is not a memory. Kindliness goes a long ways. 

Describe a situation where being a Fearless Caregiver helped you succeed?

When my mom was able, and expressed her desires for her care, financially and what she wanted, I respected it, which meant I had to go against family's wants and desires. Family all abandoned me, but I stood my ground for mom.

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