Fearless Caregiver Profile: Annemarie Sundgren

How did you become the caregiver for your loved one?

A house fire prevented my parents from living in their home. Due to their medical needs, they could not stay in a hotel. They lived with me for two months prior to placement in our first choice of skilled nursing facilities.

Has your relationship changed with the loved one that you are caring for? If so how?

My relationship with my parents involves much more empathy and compassion. Seeing their lives through their lens has made me aware just how important a visit or phone call can be. 

What is the hardest thing about being a caregiver and the most rewarding thing?

The hardest thing about being a caregiver is the responsibility we place on ourselves for the well being, the life of others. In my case, I did become 'parents to my parents'. The most rewarding thing is my parents are alive and safe. That warms my soul.

What advice would you give to other caregivers?

When you think you are at your worst, you are not. Be patient, be grateful, and realize you can only do what you can do. You don't know what you don't know! Ask questions of those you are caring for. Ask for help from the professionals. Just breathe. 

In ten words or less, what has caregiving taught you?

Self-care is essential. But caregiving isn't about you.

Describe a situation where being a Fearless Caregiver helped you succeed?

By advocating for my parents and working within the system, not against it, I was able to place my parents in the home we chose. It was not chosen for us. Fortunately, compassionate people played a role in that and will forever be appreciated.

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