The New-New Normal
How many times have we caregivers heard the phrase “The New Normal?” A perfect metaphor for the life we start leading once our loved one takes ill. Suddenly, the trips to Bermuda or the casino or the bingo parlor, have been replaced by trips to the myriad doctor’s offices and emergency waiting rooms. The golf or book club groups were replaced by (hopefully) support group meetings and your nightly sleep regime had been reduced from eight to (if lucky) three. The travel website visits have been replaced by visits to supportive sites such as caregiver.com.
Over these past 25 years, so many caregivers we have spoken with have fearlessly embraced the new normal and have made it an integral part of their life. All new medications are researched and health teams questioned until clear and concise answers are elicited, even from the doctors.
We have found ways to carve out some well-deserved personal space for ourselves in the new normal and have even capitalized upon the humor it sometimes presents. We have attended local caregiver conferences, support groups and luncheons to spend time with our fellow caregivers.
So now, as caregiver during Covid-19, we have actually entered what I like to call The New-New Normal for family caregivers.
I recoil when I see any television program produced B.C. (Before Covid-19) where people would shake hands or jam city streets. The last doctor’s office waiting room I encountered was in early march and already a few of us were wearing masks. In late-march, I was one of only a few folks in my local grocery store wearing a mask and now you cannot enter without one. So, how do we create a life as caregivers in this New-New Normal? Just like we did when we entered the original Caregiving New Normal phase of our lives. By fearlessly adapting, partnering and paying attention.
- Remember to take care of you, too: If your doctor’s office offers telehealth services, make an appointment for yourself as well as for your loved ones
- Stay informed but not fearful: Find the correct information you need from your doctor or medical center website or from the CDC website
- Stay connected: Zoom chats, Facebook live, Skype we live in a world where video connection is possible through every smartphone. Contact your favorite people and talk about anything but caregiving
If your loved one lives in a Long-Term Care Facility: Make sure you understand the policies and procedures in place to keep them safe. Make a plan to stay in touch with them through regular video calls.
Follow the rules: regarding safe-distancing, sheltering-in place, masks and sanitizing, especially as so many of our cities are starting to reopen for business.
Above all, remember that you are not alone. Your local area Agency on Aging, Alzheimer’s Association and many other healthcare groups staff members are still available event if they are working from home.
The New-New Normal, bring it on!
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