Carenote from kelly

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Caregiver Exhaustion

". . and call me if you need anything," is always what I say before I leave my father's home. I do not have the space to move him in my own home which would save time, gas and money. My house is now in a hoarder's situation and I really don't have time now to clean because helping him consumes 80% of my day.

By the end of the day, I don't have the energy remaining to do anything other than the dishes in my house. I have two siblings. One who is out of state & out of mind. The other is not willing to come to my father's aid. If he comes to her house, fine, but not the other way around. She blames the pandemic now. Before it was just that they don't get along. No one wishing to be the better person or to display empathy. So I'm stuck.

I'm tired both mentally and physically. I am trying to not take it out on him because he is basically an invalid. He has reverted to being a baby which requires changing and feeding. I have never had children but now I have one adult baby. I wish I could trust someone to come in and help but with covid, I just don't. I fear him getting infected. I just wish my sister would give me a day or two to myself. Just a day even. 

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