Carenote from Amber

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Caregiver for Mom with Cancer

I have been searching on google for someone out there to HELP me while I take care of my 66 year old mother fighting stage 4 cancer. She is in her chemo and radiation 2nd week and it is been a battle I've been fighting with her for last 7 months now almost.

It is draining me emotionally and financially. I have not even been able to go back to my home to rest there because my home has stairs and she cannot climb stairs and wont be able to for one year plus maybe more even. She lives in a one bedroom space and I have been living in her living room on a folding mattress to take care of her.

My entire body hurts. I need help. I have become her full-time unpaid caregiver and now I need a caregiver. I still have to pay my mortgage and all my other bills and now I just cannot continue to ignore the fact that while I help her I need someone to help me also.

Cancer resources are all for her and what we need to buy for her. but nothing out there I can find to help me financially get through this. I do not have any funds to pay mortgage on my own condo and utilities. I need funds for that and my own self care as well.

My energies are giving out as the months progress. I do not know what to do. Please help me. 

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