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Let's Talk

I am thankful for
those who help
with my caregiving…

And optimistic about the rest


What are you thankful for?

Shared by: Amy

I am thankful for the time I had with my Dad, taking care of him after my mom died. During this time, I was available to him like I had not been before in my life. Previously, we shared a wonderful relationship, all marked by different points: childhood, teen years, giving me away at my wedding, young motherhood, middle age, giving my children away, grieving over mom's loss, each in our ways., and then the waning years, dad's "evening of his life", as St. John of the Cross says it. We talked about everything, and I was finally present to my dad. Dad had given us wisdom all through the years, but this time, marked by shadows, sorrow, uncertainty, disappointments, was a magical time, now that I look back since his passing in December, 2015. I am thankful for the hard days and nights by his side, taking care of my dad, and finally see his blessing!

Shared by: Shay
South Carolina

I am thankful that I am stronger than I ever believed. I lost a husband 10 years ago to lung cancer, somehow I survived ti and finally went on with my life. I remarried 4 years ago to a wonderful man. We found out 10 months after we were married he was suffering from FTD and PSP. I have been his caregiver for the last 3 years and somehow I feel more able to deal with life this time around. However it has made me realize I could never make such a commitment again hence I would never become involved again. I love my wonderful husband so much and we have no one but each other in life. I guess Spirit created me stronger than I ever believed. I thought being a nurse and a hospice nurse before I retired I had paid my dues.. Guess we really don't know what we will face and get thru with Grace.

Shared by: Mary
Fort Collins CIO

I am grateful that my son is alive and able to argue with me. I am grateful that I have the insight and intuition to help my son gain physically and cognitively. I belong to a caregiver group that helps me to feel more like a human myself.

Shared by: Sherrill

I'm so thankful for all the people who help and support this fam.with my husband mas time goes on he will need double.until then I appreciate everything.

Shared by: Miriam

I am thankful for the many resources that are available to me.From support groups,clinical trials, conferences, podcasts, webinars and books! Who knew? It helps to be as informed as possible

Shared by: Deanna
Los Angeles

I am thankful that my 96 year old mother left with the Angels on Monday, September 7, 2015. She lived in a worldly body ravaged by Alzheimer's after she stopped speaking, eating, an drinking except for the morphine to ease the pain each time she was touched. I'm thankful that she's with my father, her siblings, and parents that all went before her. I'm thankful she's now in a heavenly body and state of mind. R. I. P. Mommy.

Shared by: Maggie
United States

I have been the sole caregiver for my mother and brother for the past ten years plus and today is my birthday. I am 58 and I wasn't asked ,"What do you want for your birthday?" If I had been asked , maybe I would say something like this: Probably not what you would think and definitely not what any normal person would ask for but I would like to go the entire day, the full twenty four hours and not have to cook , fetch, tote or carry anything for anybody. I do not want to have to touch or smell anybody else's urine or feces in any way. I do not want to have to cook any food, not even make a sandwich. I do not want to have to treat any wounds or see anybody else's body parts at all. I do not want to hear a phone or buzzer ring to summon me. I want to sleep until I decide to get up and not when somebody else wants me to or needs something. I want to go to sleep when I am tired or just because I want a nap. I want to pick up my crochet hook and not put it down until I am tired of crocheting. I want to read a book, listen to my music, go out if I want on a moments notice without asking or telling anyone. I want to shop without hearing my cell phone ring and go to all the stores I want and look at anything I want and go home when I decide to, not when I have to . I want to drive and drive, only stopping if I choose too, not when I have reached the end of my chain or my time limit. I want to drive over the city line, county line, state line and maybe several state lines. I want to drive all night if I decide to, just because I am a free woman of legal age and it is my right to do so . I want to soak in the bath tub for hours until my fingertips are all wrinkly and I feel so very clean and the stench of sickness is washed away. I want to wear pretty clothes that may not be soil resistant and not have to worry about them getting ruined by blood, urine or feces. I want to watch the sun rise, watch it set and lie on my back looking at the night stars for as long as I feel is necessary to maintain my sanity. I want to drive to the ocean , just to stand and stare at it for hours on end. I want quiet , peace and no responsibility , even if it is only for a short time. I want to own my life and my person again for just a little while. God, I need a vacation. It's been over ten years now, have I earned one yet?

Shared by: Janet

I am thankful that I am privileged to care for my husband of 54 years as he begins a new journey needing more of my help every day. It is a joy to be the one to care for him. This journey has made me a better person as I have replaced frustration with compassion, negativity with positivity, and am enjoying the wonderful moments we can still have together. It's not easy but with the right attitude and deep faith, it works.

Shared by: Janet

I am thankful that God has said He will never leave me or forsake me.....I am not alone on this last journey with my earthly dad and with all the care that is needed. My heavenly Father never changes or grows old. When all will have been said and done, despite the daily struggles, it will have been a blessing to have been chosen to care for him and have him living with us....till the end of his earthy life.

Shared by: Donna
Birmingham, Alabama

I am thankful that I was able to care for my father during his final year of life and take care of the man who spent his life wanting nothing but the best for all his children.

Shared by: B. Bernadette
Herndon, Virginia

I am thankful that God has given me the patience, understanding and perserverance to withstand the challenges of caring for and planning for the care of my husband, a stroke and brain injury survivor and my 94 year old mother. The lessons on this journey are ones that are timeless.

Shared by: Pat
Houston, TX

Every day is different. I take one day at a time and go with the flow. I have learned to be flexible.

Shared by: Carolee
Omaha, Nebraska

I am thankful that the person that I interviewed today to caregive my son admitted to me that they lived far away, and may have a problem with lateness, when I said I need to get to my doctor's appointments on time, and therefore need you to be on time. We both agreed that she would not work out.

Shared by: Ron
Delray Beach, FL

I am thankful that my Daughter has accepted that her 8 y/o son will be OK after she her stage IV journey is over.

Shared by: Ronald Aexander
Fort Lauderdale, FL

ARTHUR (1927-1988) & CLEMONTEESE L. FOULKES (1923-2014)

All for which I am Thankful...

  • That ELOHIM/GOD sent me to Earth through Arthur and Clemonteese Foulkes, my parents, in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, United States of America.

  • That Arthur and Clemonteese chose to wait four years after their marriage to bring me into this world, assuring me that I was planned for and wanted; and, because I was their first and only, that they had given me back to Elohim/God as their first fruits gift to Him.

  • That Arthur and Clemonteese, though divorced in my 6th year (1962) continued to love one another and me, to remain friends, AND to be my parents, and taught me to value, to embrace, and to love BOTH SIDES of my family—The Lawsons/Haygoods and the Foulkes/Bains.

  • That not only were/are Arthur and Clemonteese my Father and Mother, but they are, and will forever remain my FIRST teachers, my FIRST mentors, my FIRST confidant[e]s, my FIRST friends.

  • That Arthur and Clemonteese gave me ALL that I needed – the greatest of which was Love: The Love of Elohim/God, of Yeshua/Jesus, of Myself, of my Family, and of ALL Others – But, they did NOT give me all that I wanted, or thought I wanted. So, I was NOT THEN—NOR AM I, TODAY— SPOILED; indeed, I was, and remain, and will always be, BLESSED.

  • That Arthur and Clemonteese encouraged me to think, to explore, and to follow, for myself, the ELOHIM/God and Holy Spirit within, and to know, to appreciate, the world around me through living, research and work in over 85 nations on 5 continents since 1972.

  • That Arthur and Clemonteese gave me deep, meaningful insights into, appreciation and respect for, and understanding of, the unseen, omnipresent, omnificent, omnipotent, omniscient supernatural world through which we are traveling , knowing and seeing, and how to tap into that supernatural realm to meet all of my needs, and the needs of others.

  • That both Arthur and Clemonteese had, on the whole, top-notch, first-rate, caring, health and medical providers through a host of physicians, surgeons, radiologists, oncologists, pulmonologists, nurses, pharmacists, podiatrists, nutritionists, x-ray technicians, physical therapists, speech therapists, ophthalmologists, cardiologists, nephrologists, neurologists, endocrinologists, infectious disease specialists, wound care specialists, an array of other medical specialists, nurses, pharmacists, insurers, etc. Especially those affiliated with and through Humana, Continucare, Plantation General Hospital, West Side Regional Hospital, Florida Medical Center, and several Skilled Nursing Facilities throughout Broward County.

  • That both Arthur and Clemonteese chose to leave me / return to Heaven minutes BEFORE I was to return to their respective hospital rooms at Plantation’s Humana Bennett (today, Westside Regional) Hospital, on 18th May 1988, and at Fort Lauderdale’s Kindred Hospital on 6th October 2014. And, that I had my dad for all 32 years of my life; and, my mom, for 58.

Shared by: Ken Takeya

I am thankful for having the ability as a caregiver for my wife to work with and counsel other caregivers on how to proceed with their long journey as caregivers. We tell them to never give up and to find other caregivers to help.

Shared by: Joy Archer

I am Thankful that I am safe and my husband is safe. He is in the Nursing Home. He still loves me and knows me but is declining fast. He has Alzheimer/Dementia

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