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Time: 09:42 PM
I acuatlly found this more entertaining than James Joyce.
Name: Rubetta Miller
Time: 12:34 PM
My Dad past away Christmas night 1968 and my mother whom had cancer always made Christmas special with lots of family & friends. I recently lost my husband of 41 yrs and I'm very determinded to keep Christmas special for my children & grandchildren. I love lights ( GOD is light) & staying close to GOD keeps me with HOPE to a much brighter future!!! Sharing what GOD did for us all is my goal for my loved ones & to whom all GOD puts in my path!!!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL & LET GOD BLESS YOU DAILY...not just CHRISTMAS!!!! Rubetta
Time: 07:34 AM
IT'S BEEN 6 MONTHS & 20 DAYS TODAY THAT MY HUSBAND WENT TO HEAVEN. I STAY VERY BUSY, BUT MY HAPPIEST TIME IS WHEN I'M WORKING. I WORK FOR CROSS TIMBERS HOSPICE & I'M THE CAREGIVER DIRECTOR. I'VE HAD LOTS OF TRAINING AT CROSS TIMBERS HOSPICE, BUT GOING THROUGH MY HUSBANDS ILLNESS WAS THE BEST TRAINING I COULD GET!GOD WAS WITH ME ALL THE WAY...I HAVE THE GREATEST FAMILY & FRIENDS...CROSS TIMBERS HOSPICE CO WORKERS ALL SUPPORTED US ALL THE WAY!!! I'M HELPING MY CAREGIVERS UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN IS REAL & UNDERSTANDABLE!!! I AM HARDIER ON MYSELF FOR THINKING "I" THE DIRECTOR OF CAREGIVERS SHOULD BE STRONGIER...BUT I'M HUMAN & I HAVE LOST MY VERY BEST FRIEND OF 42 YEARS!!! THERE'S DAYS I CAN GO & BE AROUND FAMILY & DAYS I KNOW I CANNOT. I DO BEST WITH PEOPLE THAT DON'T KNOW MY LOSS, BUT LET ME SUPPORT THEM & THEIR NEEDS! HELPING THEM HELPS ME!!!!! EVERYDAY WILL GET BETTER, GOD PROMISES US STRENGTH & COURAGE THAT ONLY HE CAN GIVE. OUR BEST FRIEND BESIDE GOD IS ''OURSELVES.'' SO WE MUST LEARN TO ALLOW OURSELVES TIME TO GRIEVE & MOURN...WITHOUT A TIME LIMIT! WE LOVED & LAUGHED FOR 42 YRS...MY MEMORIES ARE PLENTY & I TREASURE THEM ALL!!! HEAVEN HOLDS OUR LOVED ONES & MY GOAL IS TO COMPLETE MY MISSION FOR GOD & JOIN THEM ALL!!! I KNOW IT WON'T ALWAYS BE EASY, BUT I CAN MAKE THE BEST OF IT!!! GOD BLESS & COMFORT EACH OF YOU DAILY!!! RUBETTA MILLER
Time: 06:44 PM
It's been 18 months now since my wife of 28 years' brain surgery to remove a tumer growing 20 years (asymptamatic,) during which surgery she suffered a massive stroke, cogntive damage (Dementia, zero short term memory, etc,) and after 4 months in the hospital we have her in a good skilled local nursing home for approx. 14 months now. It is our first holiday season as last November was still too close to the flames of all that happened to change our lives forever some 3 months before. I was still in shock and she...it's difficult to say how she must have been feeling. As much as our love is strong and devoted, I never walked in her shoes and don't really actually know how she felt. I know a great deal and did then too, but we're as limited as we are hopeful and grateful when you come down to it. This Thankgiving I brought her home, which I've been doing every weekend for many months now but could not attempt last year. Last year at this time it was a time of serious prayer (it still is) and Hope and fighting for a piece of the deck where you wouldn't slip off.
God is so powerful. I have watched her cope with unimaginable things. I spend about 9 hours a day with her every day save for weekends when I do take her home but cannot have her remain overnight.
We both are still learning so much we're like babes in the woods, regarding ourselves, each other, and God and everyone around us.
There is no family nor friends, really just she and I.
And to be dead honest, we have so much to be grateful for I would not know where to begin. We've made many mistakes and didn't always learn from them the first time. And we've learned a whole lot about a million things I wish I didn't have to know about.
I know our lives are in your prayers and God's hands. That's all I know.
And we go on...and God willing so do you.
Happy Thanksgiving and God Bless you all.
Name: Terry Gratton RN
Location: Etowah. North Carolilna
Time: 03:06 PM
I have found that living in the present is one of the best ways for me to live stress. If I am living in the land of "if only" or attempting to control future outcomes, I am missing the beauty of the day. Attempting to control others with my opinions and suggestions only increases the stress of interacting with family, friends, and co workers. Letting go of resentments also helps me to understand and forgive persons or situation that cause me increased sadness and anger. When I acknowledge to myself that I miss those who have gone before me. It frees me to enjoy the ones who still grace my life. I don't spend money I don't have. I have examined my motives when I buy someone a gift. Is it because I want to impress someone or is it a gift from my heart? And I pray.
Name: Howard Theobald
Time: 01:43 PM
Who does one contact to become a liscensed care giver in the state of California?? Is ther an office in California government that one has to contact to get a liscense. Are their classes one must attend. I am totally new at this and need help as to where do I start.
Name: Linda Sheehan
Location: Orange, CT
Time: 05:43 AM
Already we are being inundated with holiday ads on t.v. and in the newspapers. Things are different this year as my husband is ill. I try to focus on my wonderful family and not get overwhelmed with the hype. At this time, family is so important. Things and possessions are not important, FAMILY is. Try to keep that in mind.