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What caregiving resolutions have you made this
Name: Jenny Tolson
Location: Charlotte, NC
Time: 09:05 AM
My caregiving resolution is to exercise more than once a week and to eat more vegetables. Once a month after a busy week of public school teaching and teaching Water Aerobics at the Y, I travel five hours to assist my parents with buying groceries, cleaning out their attic, and doing laundry. Over the past three years of this arrangement, I discovered that not only my social life was taking a toll but that my health was also being impacted. My weight, cholesterol, and subsequent stress level was up. In June of 2008 and at the age of 51, I was diagnosed with fatty liver disease. All the stress eating and visits to fast food restaurants (Sausage Biscuits and Burgers)with my parents had caught up with me. Since that time, I have lost 20 pounds and with the help of a Dietician have learned how to eat more healthy with my parents. Despite my success, I still need to add in an additional exercise time per week to maintain my weight and increase my overall fitness. As a caregiver, I have had to learn that I could not be effective as a long term caregiver if my own needs were not being met.
Location: New Jersey
Time: 02:08 PM
My resolution has continued through all the years I have been the sole caregiver for my mom who has Alzheimer's. I resolve to continue to walk step by step by her side through this scary trip. I resolve to make the best decisions I can for her and to make sure the funds she worked so hard to accumulate would be used in the best way possible for her care. I resolve to still love my siblings even though their involvement with our mom's care has been very limited. I resolve to lay my head down on my pillow at night and know I have done as much as I can for my mom. And lastly, I resolve to continue these resolutions for as long as I need them.
Name: Melinda Cornwell
Location: Merced, CA
Time: 10:38 AM
I resolved to see my own friends at least twice per week, and to continue in personal counseling to help manage stress.
Time: 02:12 PM
I resolved to create more high energy blocks of time for myself. That means that when I have planned and arranged for a few hours of free time, I want to arrive at those free time hours rested enough to do something interesting and soulful for myself. I don't want to use those precious hours to just go rest because I am too tired to do otherwise.
Name: Joyce Joliet IL
Time: 06:38 AM
I resolve to be more kind to my husband, who has Parkinson's, and not be so impatient with him at times when I am tired. I resolve to meet with my counselor and "air out" some issues. I resolve to get involved in more activities outside the home as I am not working at this time and am with him 24/7. We moved to a new town and the lack of friends and social interactions (which work used to provide) are literally causing me to waste away. I am slowly starting to make some changes.