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Location: S.F., CA
Time: 01:42 PM
Chew gum and stare at the blank wall until I feel comfortable to deal with, deep breath...imagine what it would be like in a perfect world
Location: Las Vegas
Time: 12:08 PM
I sit in my recliner and put a movie on and often times I doze off for a little while.
Name: Nat Gross
Location: Pembroke Pines
Time: 03:17 PM
I have taken up writing poetry. I also go fishing often and love to share my catch. Nat
Location: Binghamton, NY
Time: 03:44 PM
Reading humorous novels --- takes my mind off daily tasks.
Sometimes I stare out the window to reflect on the freshness and newness the spring season will bring us.
Location: Kansas City
Time: 08:29 AM
After I put my husband to bed at night, I can sit in the living room with a good book. It relaxes me to get out of my story and into the book's story - even if it is a spy novel or a thriller. Recently, I have re-discovered crocheting. The repetitive stitches let me keep my hands busy and my mind open to new things. And all my Christmas gifts are getting made!
Name: Pamela A Smith
Time: 10:13 AM
My caregiving ended when my mother died last November on her 85th birthday. Since that time, I have had time to reflect on what I did when I wasn't in caregiver mode. More than anything, I needed rest and so I actually had to plan that after working my full time job, I would come home and do NOTHING. I turned off the telephone and television, found my favorite sofa and my favorite blanket and just shut down my mind. This was not easy as I was always planning my weekends with my mother. I spent two and half days of my week (always on the weekend) with my mother. I was required to also include traveling round trip four hours. She was completely incapacitated and needed 27/7 care. Given the expense of this care, I gave up my weekends to tend to her needs. I used to envy especially men who said when asked "what are you thinking" and they replied "nothing." I worked hard to find a way to do that. It took a little while, but I finally accomplished that goal. It could have been post menopausal symptoms and additional testosterone that helped me do but I got there. Meditation and visualization are a great help in getting into the "nothing" zone. I strongly recommend finding a way to shut down thoughts and to not plan all aspects of your life. Sometimes just let things happen and somehow it does work.
Although Mom is gone, I still co-chair a caregiver's support group at work and I continue to get great satisfaction from helping others help themselves and their loved one during some very difficult time that I have already faced.
Name: Doris Konkol
Location: Des Moines, IA
Time: 10:28 AM
My sister, 82 years old, and suffering with the mid-to-late stages of Alzheimer's, has almost no social communication skills now. So one of my favorite 'relaxing' activities is being with friends and just conversing! I also enjoy poking around shops where I can't take my sis, and taking a stroll around beautiful Gray's Lake in Des Moines. Being with people for whom I'm not responsible, is a great change of pace!
Location: CHICAGO ILLINOIS
Time: 11:12 AM
To be perfectly honest, I feel that I am always in caregiver mode.
Name: Kitty Petmecky
Time: 12:24 PM
When I get any downtime from caregiving Erik I try & spend time on my computer playing games or also try to work in the yard. The working in the yard is hard for me cause Erik doesn't go to bed to stay until after 8 pm so he interrupts me & needs help with stuff
Name: Ginny Clymer
Location: Findlay Oh
Time: 04:38 PM
I either, sew, work on stain glass. But now that spring is here I'll be working in my garden.
It takes my mind off of what I have to do.
Name: Judy Beauchemin
Location: Branchport, NY
Time: 01:23 PM
I am the coordinator of an e-mail prayer group. That allows me to be off and on the computer through out the day for short time periods. I also paint on porcelain china and do that when I can get longer blocks of time to concentrate on my china painting. When I can arrange an aide to stay with my husband, I enjoy meeting a friend for lunch and maybe an hour of shopping. I am also co-leader of the local Caregiver Support Group. We meet once a month. My respite is usually in short spurts, rather than full days off. but it works for me.
Name: Yuvonne Colwell
Location: Mc Minnville, TN, USA
Time: 02:17 PM
I love to get out of the house and do things alone. Movies, dinner, shopping, taking a walk in the park. When I can't get out, I enjoy reading or listening to music. A hot bath is also nice.
Name: B. Lynn Goodwin
Location: Danville, CA
Time: 03:59 PM
Journaling is a great way to relax and relieve stress. Journals don't talk back, argue, or judge. Sharing your journaling is like getting a friend to listen. E-mail me if you are interested.
Location: LITITZ ,PA
Time: 02:44 PM
I PUT MY SHOWS ON AND WATCH THEM. WORKING IN THE YARD. I DO FEEL THAT CAREGIVNG IS ALL THE TIME. THERE IS A LOT TO DO. I TAKE CARE OF MY MOTHER. SHE IS 70 YEARS OLD.
Location: New Hampshire
Time: 08:02 AM
Reading the other comments, I am struck by how many use time alone to relax and recharge. This is my way of recharging, too. I find that people who are not caregivers do not understand this. It can be difficult for me to find time alone. But it is necessary.