FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN
/ An Undeserved Burden
I must say that the first event of the rural
Fearless Caregiver tour is off to a great start.
I woke up yesterday morning in Wisconsin Dells
at the hotel in which the conference was being
held and threw open the curtains to find what
that is had been raining for some time.
Not a good sign. But there were only five
participants that did not show up and they had
all emailed the night before with apologies and
there were five walk-ins to make up the
difference. There were so much good advice from
the caregivers in attendance that it would take
ten newsletters to scratch the surface, yet one
comment did stand out.
participant was seeking advice about her mother
who twice turned away ambulances after showing
signs of what seemed to be minor strokes. A
discussion followed but learning that there was
not much that this caregiver could do that she
had not already considered, attempted or set
into motion, one of her fellow
participants stood to share the following words.
She said "Things go wrong sometimes and we
caregivers can't always make things be 100
percent the whole time. Sometimes you have to
say, 'I did the best I could with the help that
was out there and the best I knew to do at the
time' and not have to live with the guilt the
rest of your lives."
first, I was taken aback by the frankness of this
comment, but after a while it hit me: of all the
burdens that we caregivers place upon ourselves,
doing the best we can do with what we have at our
disposal at the time, even if it doesn't solve the
situation, should never be one of them.