FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN /
Three More Little Words
Now that summer is in full swing and caregivers
are visiting and being visited by family members,
one particular conversation with some errant
relatives that has been shared with me by our
readers has driven me to respond with a three-word
phrase. This concept is as important to family
caregivers as any other three little words they may
need. So here goes…Nonsense, poppycock and baloney!
(Please forgive me for such profanity.)
I am driven to such a response whenever I hear
that relatives feel the need to tell family
caregivers that they are no longer a caregiver when
their loved one is living in a care facility.
At a recent Fearless Caregiver Conference, I even
heard from a caregiver who had been slapped in the
face with this thoughtless opinion from several of
his relatives. So, let me reiterate. Over 90 percent
of all caregiving happens at home; but once
appropriate facility placement is made, not only are
you still your loved one’s caregiver, but you may
have added to their lives as well as saving your
own. The other thing you have accomplished is to add
members to your loved one’s care team.
As far as I am concerned, you are still the
captain of that team, responsible for seeing that
your loved one receives the best care possible from
the facility. But the value you have added to your
loved one’s well-being by your carefully determined
decision has been multiplied. Just consider the
realization that it sure would be nice to be able to
spend some time with your loved one as loving son,
daughter, husband or wife again, as opposed to
emergency medical expert, pharmacist, nutritionist,
as well as incontinence specialist.
Now, family caregivers can be armed with those
three little words to respond to those who would
utter such unfeeling and thoughtless opinions.