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 I'll Be Sneaky for Christmas
(Kwanzaa, Hanukkah)

When we last discussed the topic of the constructive value of being sneaky, I had asked for some examples of when sneaky works for you as family caregivers. Now to be clear, we are not talking about being deceitful, hurtful or underhanded -- these are not good things. What we are referring to are those times when you need to bend the truth somewhat to garner the best results for your loved ones.

I wanted to take a moment and share some of the great and sneaky responses to that newsletter request:

That was better than me telling Grandpa that the mechanic has the car and can't fix it for quite a while because he is waiting for a part from Japan.
Mom (really, my mom)  

Here are some of my "sneaky caretaker" tricks:

  1. I put about 1/4 teaspoon of TANG in 10 to 12 ounces of water to "color" it and then my sister thinks she is drinking juice and not just plain old water; she gets her needed fluids and doesn't get too much sugar from that much real juice.
  2.  She told me she would not eat eggs, so I scrambled them and told her it was rice.
  3. I also put most of her fluids in a "SIP-A-MUG" by Arrow Plastic Mfg. Co.  It has a top that turns on tight and a straw type handle for her to sip from.  Again, she gets her fluids, and remembers how to use a straw, AND not as much liquid is spilled when things get tipped over (as they always do).

I'll probably think of more after I send this off, but then I will just send you another list!!!

After taking care of my husband for several years, it became necessary to put him in assisted living.
I visit him five times a week. When I leave, I always do so when it is his lunch time or dinner time. That makes my leaving easier on both of us. Sneaky but helpful.
Also when I leave, I say I am going to the dentist or getting my hair cut. As he has Alzheimer's, he does not remember that I said it the day before. Sneaky but helpful.
Hope this helps others in the same situation.

Sneaky, Smart, Loving and Fearless. Not a bad combination for any caregiver.



Gary Barg

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