FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN /
a delay or cessation for a time, esp. of anything
distressing or trying; an interval of relief: to
toil without respite.
–verb (used with object)
to relieve temporarily, esp. from anything
distressing or trying; give an interval of relief
I want to thank the following fearless caregivers
who responded to my request for respite tips last
week. This being the tenth annual Today’s
Caregiver magazine and caregiver.com Summer of
Respite, we very much look forward to hearing
everyone’s respite tips as the summer progresses.
This week’s respite tips:
As requested in your last newsletter, here's how
I help my elderly mother when she makes her annual
visit to our home each summer. She lives in
Maryland and we live in Indiana.
I find her a nonstop flight to minimize any air
travel hassles. It just means that I drive two hours
into Chicago to meet her at the gate. She asks for a
wheelchair at check-in that takes her through a
special security area and means much less waiting.
We plan her flight for early afternoon to avoid
traffic at either end of her trip. That planning
really pays off.
While here, we make short outings to the
library, to a beach with nearby parking, and a
half-day trip into Chicago to sit by the lake and
have dinner with my son. She seems to enjoy meeting
people and seeing new places, so I use that as a
guide for our activities.
One thing I found important is to find out
how she feels each day of her visit, share the list
of options, listen to what she'd like to do, and
then be flexible.
Thank you. Dale
Hi Gary -
As a spousal caregiver who must work full time (to
retain our medical insurance) and also work full
time as a caregiver nights and weekends, time for
"me" was often missed ... until I made me a
priority and scheduled a “time-out” on my busy
When I noticed that I always seem to find the time
for his many doctor appointments, tests, lab work
and therapy (and wondering why I was always so
tired!), I realized that it was just as important to
find time for me.
So, now I make an "R & R" appointment at least
once a month (and more often during the summer
months). I schedule a half day off from work on
When the weather's nice, I have lunch in the park
and read for a few hours. If the weather's not so
good, then it's lunch at the mall or out with a
friend and we'll go see an afternoon movie.
Just a few hours, a few times a month, helps me to
be much less stressed from the day-to-day toll that
being a caregiver takes! It's nice to make me
important, even just once in a while!
Please share your respite tips for an upcoming
My respite tips