FROM THE EDITOR'S PEN
/ The Circle of Life
I tell the story about being on the phone
extension years ago when my mom was having a
conversation with a distant male relative about her
care for my grandmother. I was shocked (but not
surprised) by his flippant disregard about what
family caregivers provide for their loved ones.
I may have also been a tad bit flippant in my
response to his cold commentary about family
caregiving. I reminded him that not only do
little pitchers have big ears, but big eyes as well,
and to be careful about what example his attitude
sets for his own children, who may be equally as
dismissive to him when faced with the possibility of
being his caregivers sometime in the future.
Along these lines, I would like to share an email
I received from Marie:
I, too, have a story to share. Today is
19 years since my mother died. She was 94
years old. She had a full life and had nine
children, 28 grandchildren and eight
great-grandchildren. By the time she died, there
were only three children and 22 grandchildren left.
All of her grandchildren loved her very much.
She had a lot to share with them. She taught
them values, skills, crafts, cooking, sewing, and
loved all of us. I miss her and think of her
almost every day. She was caring and
thoughtful to everyone she met. Today, I hear
stories about her taking care of someone in need.
She was in her mid- forties when I was born, but she
was my best friend growing up. She would do
activities with me, even going on a Ferris wheel.
She spoke our native language, Ho-Chunk, most of the
time. I know I am not the only one who feels
this way about their mother. Now I am a
mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, but I
donít have parents, brothers or sisters, aunts or
uncles. I had a very good role model in my
Thank you for allowing me to share my loved
As Marie learned and my relative, to his own
chagrin, may never learn, is that, for better or
worse, apples do not necessarily fall too far from
Share your own story about what you have learned
from your loved one