Board of Directors:
For many of us, the opportunity to spend
time during the holidays with family members who live far away
is an absolute blessing. And yet, for so many, those
get-togethers can be a time fraught with fretting, fighting,
fuming and even fracas food-fights. Regardless of the
family dynamics that you find in your Christmas stocking this
season, I think you should consider these times together as an
opportunity. Now wait. Before you start tossing turkey
legs at me, consider the following.
The holidays offer the best
opportunity to hold Caregiver Board of Directors’ Meetings. By
that, I mean calling to order the adult members of your
families, who will be sharing your holiday tables, and finally
having meaningful discussions about any specific topics of
concern that everyone has been avoiding. It only makes sense
that if you are the CEO of Caring for My Loved One, Inc., your
family members who are not involved with the day-to-day details
of caring for your shared loved one are, in effect, your Board
of Directors (for better or for worse).
so many of us, it would be great to be able to have some in-home
help as we care for our loved ones. But as well as any possible
resistance to such care from our Board of Directors, the biggest
roadblock to securing help can sometimes be our loved ones
themselves. They can make it impossible for us to consider
getting in-home care, even from the best sources. Although as a
Fearless Caregiver, you are an equal and extremely important
member of your loved one’s care team, the fact is that the most
significant partnership you need to have might actually be with
the loved one for whom you care.
Your loved one’s resistance may
have more to do with not understanding that these days in-home
care can take a wide variety of forms. The first step is
to find a credible and reputable in-home care agency with which
to partner and discuss your situation. They can help you craft a
plan to ensure your loved one’s safety, living in your home or
even by themselves.
Some available care options include:
By the way, if any of your long-distance Board of Directors
members offers resistance to reputable and appropriate home care
where your loved one presently lives, your response could be,
“Terrific! I’m so glad that you are willing to have our loved
one move into your home where you will care for them personally.
In fact, I can get them packed so you can bring them home with
you when you leave after the holiday.”
You may just find out how fast this board member
changes their vote on home care. And who knows? They might even want
to pay the first month’s bill themselves as they find some excuse to beat
an early and hasty retreat home.