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This Week's Carenote - 07/28/15
I am the wife and caregiver for my 83 year old husband who has dementia and is legally blind. At 2:00 or 3:00 every morning he gets up wanting to go to his home. He gets his walker and starts walking up the sidewalk. I get him home and try to get him into the bed to sleep. It is very hard to do. I have Malignant Melanoma and need to take care of myself, but I canít go anywhere without taking my husband with me. I am afraid to leave him alone.
Shared by: Joy
Hello: You are in my prayers. My husband has dementia and is in a Long Term Care Facility. Before that, he use to walk into the city to get his driver's license. 14 times the police brought him back. The Alzheimer's Society in Canada have a safety bracelet with information to allow the police to bring him back safely. He also has this at the Nursing Home. Also, maybe you could get someone to come to your house and stay the night and be there for you to get some sleep and keep an eye on your husband when he wants to go all. All the best! lots of hugs.
Shared by: Gloria
Number ONE please put extra locks on all exit doors. If you cannot afford occasional home care contact Aging Services in your area and see what services are available to you. Your health is paramount. You cannot take care of him if you don't get the medical attention and rest that you need.
Shared by: Lynn
People with dementia tend to not look upward; you could have a safety security chain or latch installed on the uppermost corner of the door. We have one, and call it the Grandma Latch, to keep my mother with dementia from wandering. Don't let him sleep during the day or go to bed too early and talk to his doc about melatonin or something to help him sleep through the night.
Shared by: Nadine
Janet, Hi! Thank you! I know space limits what all can say but it would be helpful to know where you live. Are you in a big city or a small rural area? What are the resources in your area? Are there any friends or family members who could spend time with your father while you are away? Are there any adult day care/activity centers he could attend on a daily basis which would be helpful for both of you whether you go anywhere or not that day? Any home health services you or you father's Medicaid could pay for? Is in he need of Hospice care - some hospices have home health aides who could come and be with him while you are gone. Good luck and thank you for caring for your father. Keep up taking care of yourself as well, as you are trying to do.