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Welcome to CareNotes. In this special section we will feature a reader's letter and provide an opportunity for an interactive exchange that will help find some answers and possible solutions to concerns. If you wish to respond to this letter, simple follow the link provided at the end of the letter and add your comments and thoughts to our CareNotes Board.

This Week's Carenote - 2/25/14


I am my dad's caregiver. This summer, my family and I are planning a 10-day trip to Hawaii, but my dad won't be able to come. He doesn't fly. I really don't want someone coming to my house to take care of him because I have a hard time trusting people coming into my house. I've heard horror stories about some caregivers. I was wondering if there is a place I could take him for those 10 days.


Caregivers Reply

Shared by: Darren Wendroff
Orlando, FL

Hi Kathy, if you're in Orlando, there is a site called CareSpotter where you can view profiles of hundreds of local caregivers to find the right caregiver for your loved one. All the caregivers have background checks and have been interviewed and screened. They are launching throughout Florida, but for now it's only in Orlando.

Shared by: Carolyn
Rockville, MD

Kathy, The solution may be respite care in a facility such as assisted living. You can get more info. and search for respite providers at Your local Area Agency on Aging may also be able to point you to facilities in your area.

Shared by: Ellen

I have found that most long term care facilities offer respite care for a fee.

Shared by: Kemi Samo
Atlanta, GA

Hello Kathy,

I do agree with you about some of the horror stories you have heard regarding some caregivers. Caregivers who abuse their patients, are those who just do the job to make money. They have no compassion in their hearts for others, or for those who are helpless and who did not choose to be in the helpless situations they are in.

But, with that being said Kathy, there are still good, loving, and caring caregivers out there who are in it to give hope and courage to the helpless and to relieve the burden of their families as well.

When I care for my patients, I carry out my responsibility the way I know God, would want me to do it as if He (God) was standing right there watching me. I believe in the saying do unto others as you will them to do to you. Anyone born of a woman, who maltreats the elderly, surely has no elders in his/her family and that person never plans to grow old someday.

Kathy, before you take your loved one to any home, make sure you do your homework well. Some nursing homes are horrible as well. I wish you the best.

Shared by: Pat

You don't say how much care he requires, but I suggest looking into what's called a respite stay at an assisted living facility in your area. If he needs hands on help with bathing and dressing, etc., you may be able to arrange for a nursing home stay. Your local Area Agency on Aging should be a great place to help you find resources. If you don't know about them, you can find them through or by calling 1-800-677-1116. Best of luck and have a wonderful trip!

Shared by: Joseph Salvemini
Riverdale, NY

Some health care facilities have Respite Centers which may acommodate your needs. Check with your local Nursing Home or Assisted Care facility to find out more.

Shared by: Bette
Delco, PA

Contact your local Area Agency on Aging for a list of respite facilities, many of which are in nursing homes or rehabs. They each have their own criteria, but you will be able to find one which will take your dad for a few days to a couple of weeks.

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