My mom has some health
problems and doesn't want to go into a
nursing home. I have been running back and
forth between her home and mine, doing
everything for her (cooking, cleaning,
laundry, etc.) Last April, when she came
home from rehab in a wheelchair, I spent 45
days with her. She then got pneumonia and
went back in the hospital and then to rehab
again. She is still there. I am thinking
about selling both our homes to buy one more
suitable to my taking care of her. My
question is, if she does require long-term
care in the future, will the house be safe?
Thank you for any advice. We are looking to
purchase in Pennsylvania, if that makes any
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| Past Carenotes |
Location: Washington County, MD
Time: 05:04 AM
Donna: Before you make any decisions regarding real estate and other financial matters concerning your mother, please consult a GOOD elder law attorney. You can make sound decisions then, based on recommendations made to protect your assets and your mother's care. Good luck.
Location: Washington State
Time: 07:21 AM
I would look for an elder law attorney or a financial planner that specializes in elder estate planning. I would look for someone in your state who has knowledge of the governing laws regarding estates and if you should put your mother on the new property or not and how that will effect her and you. I also would make sure the person is knowledgable in regards to the rules and laws that govern medicare and any other insurance that your mother receives. With the right advice, even if it is something you pay for, it will save you in the future. With the financial issues aside, my mother had a stroke was in the hospital for 43 days. I was thankful that she already lived with us. However, my husband and I made the decision for me to stop working so I could be home with her. It was a financial sacrifice but one I would make again for her. She is now so much better and I can go back to work part-time and I chose to go back to work for an in-home care agency. The sacrifices you make for your mother will not go unnoticed. May you find the right answers for you and your mother.