I am trying to help a
friend who is a caregiver to her aging
mother lives with her and is very verbally
and physically abusive to her. From
what I can gather, the mother has always
mistreated her and has always hated her,
like she is angry she gave birth to her.
Now, the mother lives with her and she is
the caregiver, yet the abuse does not stop.
My friend is an emotional wreck and I would
like to help her, but I don't know how. Is
there anywhere in the Montgomery County,
Texas area that I can send her to for help?
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Location: Champaign, IL
Time: 12:49 PM
Call your local Area Agency on Aging and ask for the local Caregiver Support Service Advisor Immediately! Your friend should not suffer through abuse from someone she is caring for. Maybe placing her mother in long-term care would be best for both.
Name: T Beckett
Location: Maui, HI
Time: 10:29 AM
My mother was the same way, hateful and abusive all my life. Sorry she ever had me. As with Mary, help her get a free or volunteer care giver for the Mom. The abuse escalates as they get worse. It is a sad realization that she can no longer serve her Mum and would really be happier in a home. See, that way, the Mum isn't constantly reminded of that which upsets her. Just visit once a week. At this point, it isn't about the daughters happiness, it's about the Mums. Let her have her way, away from that which seems to irritates.
Your friend will eventually see that the Mum is happier and as a result, so will she and her family.
Hope this helps,
Name: Frances A Benson
Location: Elzabeth NJ
Time: 05:26 AM
I am not sure where Montgomery County is but I think it is part of the Houston-Galveston catchment area. You could call the Area Agency on Aging to see if they can provide a contact for assistance. The number there is 713-627-3200. I hope this helps.