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This Week's Carenote - 02/12/13

My 92-year-old mother recently broke her hip.  She’s also been diagnosed with third stage Alzheimer’s and atrial fibrillation, a long-standing problem.  She is completely noncompliant when it comes to doctors, meds, rehab, etc.  As a result of her condition, I have been granted guardianship of her person through the court in Florida (Palm Beach County).  She is at home now with a 24/7 aide, but the nurses and physicians she saw during her rehabilitation feel that she would be much better in an assisted living situation that also deals with patients with dementia.

My plan is to move her to a facility in my state that can cater to her medical and neurological needs. When I mentioned my plans to her, she went ballistic and said she would commit suicide and/or kill me before I ever got her out the door.  She becomes abusive and extremely hostile at the talk of her move and says that she is in complete control of her life and that nobody is going to tell her what to do. This has been her modus operandi for years.

I know she’s not the first person with Alzheimer’s to be hostile or to need long-distance transportation. What is the best way to do this and what professional help will I need to get the job done?

Richard

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Name: Cheryl
Location: Massachusetts
Date: 02/12/2013
Time: 08:47 AM

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I had the same thing only my Mom can't see she had macular degeneration bad and she couldn't stay by her seld she is in a beautiful Place in Boca Raton, I don't know where you are located but my Mom was also in PBC she klived in Delray Beach for 30n years and this place is really nice it is a NH/Rehab and the ones that live there all the time are taken very good care of... My MOM has been there for almost 2 1/2 years and she still says she could take care of herself at home. She likes there and you always get Its not like home.. Well, I kmow its not but it was the only thing that I could do and she wanted to stay in Florida. She is almost 91,, So Goos Luck with yours God Bless


Name: Gerianne
Location: Florida
Date: 02/12/2013
Time: 08:42 AM

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Check http://thegreenhouseproject.org/ and http://www.ncbcapitalimpact.org/ They are building homes for elderly care; they may also be able to help you transfer your mom easily. Check for their "facility homes" in your state. Talk to the local employees for advice on the "smooth move" at the place closest to your home. I hope it works out.


 







 

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