I am looking for help for my son. His
wife was diagnosed with brain cancer at 29
and given six months to live seven years
ago. She is paralyzed on the left side, and
has some brain damage from the surgeries and
treatment. She has to be dressed, taken to
the bathroom and needs help in all areas.
She cannot be left alone.
They live in Michigan and he is well
known for his devotion to her. Too
complicate this more, my son works out of
state. He flies out on Sunday and back on
Friday. He pays for day care Monday to
Friday and gives the night person free room
and board because he can't afford to pay for
24-hour care. He is alone with her on the
weekends with no help.
I live out of state and saw them last
week. His health is under attack; he has
high blood pressure, is gaining weight and
he is depressed. I know he sees no end in
sight and as much as he loves her, he has no
life. His wife is physically and mentally
demanding; of course the financial demands
on him are huge.
All of the extended family and friends'
help has gone into taking care of her; but
if something happens to him, I don't know
what will happen to her.
Are there any agencies or foundations for
situations like this? I am very worried
about him; the years have taken their toll.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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