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This Week's Carenote - 08/07/12

How do you not get upset when your parent will not do things for her or himself?

Debby

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Name: Kelly DeBardelaben BS, CNA, QMAP
Location: Colorado
Date: 08/07/2012
Time: 07:35 AM

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That is a tough one to deal with. Staying calm as a caregiver helps them stay calm and not agitate them any further. It has been my experience that any feelings of agitation on the part of the person I am taking care of can lead to them continuing to non compliant. Part of staying calm as a caregiver is looking at the reason(s) why the person isn't doing things for themselves ...esp things that they have done for themselves in the past. Some questions to ask yourself.... 1. Is there a medical issue that hasn't been dealt with that is causing them pain while doing the task you want them to do? 2. Might there be underlying issue of depression that is causing their self motivation/interest in things they used to like to decrease? 3. Is there an appropriate compromise that will get the task done and still give your parents some sense of control over the situation? Just some things to think about. Feel free to email me if you need some more help with this. God bless


 







 

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