I've been my mom's caregiver since 2001.
I held down a full-time job and cared for
her at home until she was placed in a
nursing home three years ago. Now I am
retiring and would like some advice for
caregivers whose identity has been a worker
and a caregiver, leaving little time for
much else. Thank you!
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Time: 08:52 AM
I am in the same boat. On April, 2012 my husband retired. I (and lately we) have cared for my Dad since 1998. In 3 short weeks Dad will move out into a retirement home (he w/be 93 in Sept & cannot stand nor walk & uses a scooter) We have made a bucket list and (not to sound morbid) have estimated that we have 10 - 15 years of quality time. Wrap your head around YOU. It's time for YOU to live! (guilt free, also)
Name: Debra Vasquez
Time: 08:45 AM
Take care of yourself - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Time: 08:15 AM
Look into support groups. There is something for everyone!!! If you connect with a group...GREAT, if not that particular one, try another. Most are free & the activities range from no cost to the sky's the limit.
A big pat on the back for being hard working caring daughter.
Time: 06:07 AM
Biggest piece of advice I'd give you is to not fill your new found time with caregiving. Use your retirement for you to do some of the things you've not been able to do. You can do this and still be a caregiver but take advantage of your new found time! Find something you've always wanted to do and use that as the beginning of re-defining who you are besides a worker and caregiver! Good luck and congrats on the retirement.