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This Week's Carenote - 07/17/12

I've been in love with someone living with bipolar disorder or manic depression for four years. Dealing with the mood swings isn't one of my strong points, but I do my best to keep her positive on her downs and out of trouble on her highs.

She has begun to accept the disorder and we're managing, I guess. But at times, she becomes cold and distant and often tries to push me away because she doesn't want me to be hurt, no matter how much I tell her I'm not going anywhere. Truth be told, it does bring me down, but I just keep reminding myself to be strong for her. If I'm not, who'll be there for her when she drops again? I wish I could find a way to get her to understand how much I care; but at this point, I haven't found it.

After all this, I just want to remind others not to lose hope. Through the weeks in rehab and clinics, through the fighting and reckless behaviour, keep hope. At the end of the day, a moment with her balanced is worth a life time of ups and downs.

Any advice, please.

Vincent

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Name: Helen
Location: Milford, CT
Date: 07/17/2012
Time: 04:52 PM

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Stop trying to convince her. The coldness and distance is Part of the disease. You are already being rewarded. All Who know you know the depth of your love for someone Who cannot do without you. Your love and kindness does Get through and a power greater than all of us sees and Knows the depth of your kindness.


Name: tj
Location: wv
Date: 07/17/2012
Time: 09:24 AM

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You have to keep in mind that her 'down' times are not a reflection on how she really feels about you or your relationship. I think you are a remarkable man, it's difficult to maintain a relationship when one partner has a mental illness. Find a local support group for you, keep on believing in your relationship and be there for her during her times of need.


Name: Cristina
Location: Plantation, FL
Date: 07/17/2012
Time: 05:19 AM

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Dear Vincent, Thank you for sharing you seem to be doing the best that is loving her unconditionaly, but caregiving is hard work you need to take care of you first. I strongly suggest you find a support group in your area, they are wonderful I was very reluctant to attent to them and now I wish I had done sooner. Best of luck and my prayers are with you and your loved one.


 







 

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