How do you deal with the death of someone
you've been caregiving for, whether it's a
spouse or parent? I've done both. My
husband just passed away and the emotions
I'm feeling are totally different from those
I experienced when my mom died over three
years ago. Advice on how to deal with those
emotions would be great.
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Time: 11:13 AM
I can relate to your question, since I have had the same thing happen. My mom passed away in 2008 and now my husband passed away 3 months ago. I'm dealing with different feelings. I'm currently going to a bereavement group and looking into going to another when this one ends. That helps. I also go to a support group to share my experiences with other caregivers who are currently going through what I have already gone through. It isn't easy to deal with these feelings. Hope all goes well for you.
Location: Delaware County, PA
Time: 06:36 AM
I still have my parents, but I lost my husband almost
ten years ago. I quickly realized that although my parents, siblings, and
friends were sympathetic, and concerned about me, they had no clue as to the
actual feelings I was experiencing. I found a great bereavement group to attend,
weekly. Although I was the "baby," of the group, I realized they understood
everything I was going through. Both my kids sought help, too. My son went to a
private therapist for a few months. My daughter joined a bereavement group for
adult children of a parent who died. They weren't feeling the same things I was:
After all, they lost a Dad, not a spouse! Those connections helped all three of us get through difficult times.
Time: 05:32 AM
I volunteer with a precious lady who just recently lost her husband after being his caregiver for two years. Our volunteer works is with a local hospital in our area and she works on the Baby, delivery floor and I work on the medical floor. Since we are both caregivers for family members, we both wanted to do something in their memory and what better way to express this since we have learned so many caregiving skills. I hope this will be of help and you also let you know you have a lot to share with others that may find themselves on this journey. Reaching out to others has helped with healing.