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This Week's Carenote - 04/03/12

How do you deal with the death of someone you've been caregiving for, whether it's a spouse or parent? I've done both.  My husband just passed away and the emotions I'm feeling are totally different from those I experienced when my mom died over three years ago. Advice on how to deal with those emotions would be great.

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Date: 04/03/2012
Time: 11:13 AM

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I can relate to your question, since I have had the same thing happen. My mom passed away in 2008 and now my husband passed away 3 months ago. I'm dealing with different feelings. I'm currently going to a bereavement group and looking into going to another when this one ends. That helps. I also go to a support group to share my experiences with other caregivers who are currently going through what I have already gone through. It isn't easy to deal with these feelings. Hope all goes well for you.


Name: Bette
Location: Delaware County, PA
Date: 04/03/2012
Time: 06:36 AM

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I still have my parents, but I lost my husband almost ten years ago. I quickly realized that although my parents, siblings, and friends were sympathetic, and concerned about me, they had no clue as to the actual feelings I was experiencing. I found a great bereavement group to attend, weekly. Although I was the "baby," of the group, I realized they understood everything I was going through. Both my kids sought help, too. My son went to a private therapist for a few months. My daughter joined a bereavement group for adult children of a parent who died. They weren't feeling the same things I was: After all, they lost a Dad, not a spouse! Those connections helped all three of us get through difficult times.


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Date: 04/03/2012
Time: 05:32 AM

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I volunteer with a precious lady who just recently lost her husband after being his caregiver for two years. Our volunteer works is with a local hospital in our area and she works on the Baby, delivery floor and I work on the medical floor. Since we are both caregivers for family members, we both wanted to do something in their memory and what better way to express this since we have learned so many caregiving skills. I hope this will be of help and you also let you know you have a lot to share with others that may find themselves on this journey. Reaching out to others has helped with healing.



 







 

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