How you deal with a parent who has
dementia and suddenly turns on you?
How do you deal with a doctor who has
written two letters saying that one or both
parents are unable to care for themselves
because of medical and mental issues, and in
the second one actually says one is
suffering from Alzheimer's, and then recants
and says that parent is now mentally sound?
When your parent had legal papers drawn up
17 years ago giving one child Power of
Attorney and naming the other Health Care
Surrogate and now decides to change her
mind, due to dementia, why is no one willing
to sit her down and explain this to her?
So now you have to go through the expense of
getting a guarantorship to enforce her
wishes when she was of sound mind?
Isn't this what all those other papers were
meant to avoid?
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Location: Smyrna, Ga
Time: 11:31 AM
I don't know that I have an answer, but a suggestion. I would seek the counsel of an elder law attorney. Make sure that this is their specialty. Most will give a free consultation, but if not trust me it would be worth it to have the correct documents. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
Time: 12:59 PM
I also had a horrible time with my father before he died of Dementia. None of the doctors wanted to declare him incompetent and he was doing crazy things 3 years before he died. Everyone took advantage of him before he died. I finally got doctor's to say he was incompetent the month he died.
Name: Ronna Brown
Location: Indiananpolis, Indiana
Time: 07:19 PM
I would sure like to have some answers to these questions as well. My parents filed papers for me to be POA for them and my husband is POA for his mother,but the medical provider for my mother-in-law said that my husband cannot act on his deaf mother's behalf without a doctor's note that she is incapable of acting on her own behalf and then I was told that the POA I have for my parents is of now use after they die.