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This Week's Carenote - 02/14/12

How you deal with a parent who has dementia and suddenly turns on you?  How do you deal with a doctor who has written two letters saying that one or both parents are unable to care for themselves because of medical and mental issues, and in the second one actually says one is suffering from Alzheimer's, and then recants and says that parent is now mentally sound?

When your parent had legal papers drawn up 17 years ago giving one child Power of Attorney and naming the other Health Care Surrogate and now decides to change her mind, due to dementia, why is no one willing to sit her down and explain this to her?  So now you have to go through the expense of getting a guarantorship to enforce her wishes when she was of sound mind?  Isn't this what all those other papers were meant to avoid?
 
Jane

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Name: Maureen
Location: Smyrna, Ga
Date: 02/24/2012
Time: 11:31 AM

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I don't know that I have an answer, but a suggestion. I would seek the counsel of an elder law attorney. Make sure that this is their specialty. Most will give a free consultation, but if not trust me it would be worth it to have the correct documents. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.


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Date: 02/23/2012
Time: 12:59 PM

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I also had a horrible time with my father before he died of Dementia. None of the doctors wanted to declare him incompetent and he was doing crazy things 3 years before he died. Everyone took advantage of him before he died. I finally got doctor's to say he was incompetent the month he died.


Name: Ronna Brown
Location: Indiananpolis, Indiana
Date: 02/14/2012
Time: 07:19 PM

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I would sure like to have some answers to these questions as well. My parents filed papers for me to be POA for them and my husband is POA for his mother,but the medical provider for my mother-in-law said that my husband cannot act on his deaf mother's behalf without a doctor's note that she is incapable of acting on her own behalf and then I was told that the POA I have for my parents is of now use after they die.



 







 

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