I thank God I found this Web
site! I just moved temporarily from
Los Angeles to Akron, Ohio. My mom
went downhill mentally sooooo fast.
I started a job when I arrived, but
can't put any real time in as of
yet. I've been unemployed for 10
years and now feel SPENT. My mom is
in a rehab facility, one sister
won't speak to me and the other one
is trying to help—especially great
in the financial aspect. But I feel
so alone, lost and overwhelmed.
I can't get money, I have to pay
$1000/month for my own healthcare
costs right now, and I’m getting
Mom's crazy calls. I'm just looking
for more tips on keeping myself
sane. I don't have much to share
right now, but I'll keep reading
some of these wonderful stories. I
want to thank you all for letting me
vent. Take care and God bless
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| Past Carenotes |
Location: Champaign, IL
Time: 12:47 PM
Find a caregiver support group and you will find you are not so lost,SPENT,and alone. Don't waste energy thinking about the sister that won't speak to you. Ask the care center to shut your mom's phone off at a certain time of the afternoon. If she needs you they will contact you. Concentrate on you. Be thankful to your sister
for al that she is doing to help.
Location: L.A. to Cleveland
Time: 07:46 AM
Hang in there and don't forget to take so "me" time. Walk around the block, scrapbook, journal do something you love for yourself often. Doesn't have to cost anything. And Carol's suggestions are great, too.
Location: Long Island, New York
Time: 06:47 AM
Your mom is being cared for in rehab, you're getting help from one sister, and you have a job. I think you need to focus on your job, ask the rehab facility to disconnect your mom's phone after hours, and demonstrate your love and appreciation to your supportive sister. In my humble opinion, once you concentrate on what's important, all the other pressing issues will be addressed. You need your own support system, such as this column. But you need to interact in person with other caregivers. Ask your mother's rehab center if they can point you in the right direction. I have been caring for a very ill husband for over ten years. The journey has been arduous but my own support system (family and friends) has really saved my life. You're a good person for caring about your mom; believe in yourself and you'll feel much better.