I am 56 years old and unable to work because I am the
primary caregiver for my 80-year-old mother, who is blind and has had
her colon removed. She wears a pouch, which must be emptied every one to
two hours; she is unable to maintain this device herself. I do all
the shopping, cooking, cleaning, and everything else necessary to run
Are there any programs to pay me, her only caregiver,
some kind of income? She receives less than $20,000 dollars a year
and we barely make ends meet. If you could point me in the right
direction, I would greatly appreciate it.
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Location: North Carolina
Time: 02:03 PM
If you father was a veteran, look into the Aid and Attendance Program.
Aid and Attendance can help pay for care in the home, skilled nursing facility, personal care home or an assisted living community. A Veteran may be eligible for up to $19,728 a year, a Veteran with a dependent spouse may be eligible for up to $23,388, a surviving spouse of a Veteran may be eligible for up to $12,672 a year and two Veterans married to each other may be eligible for up to $30,480 a year.
Time: 10:06 PM
God Bless you B for that care note and everyones most helpful replies. I have been in the same boat for awhile and it was sinking fast.
Also I would like to thank the person that has sent me this website. I read it daily and it has become my saving grace.
Location: Fredonia, NY
Time: 11:44 AM
Dear B, Check out Medicaid for your mother. I think she will qualify based on her income and they will provide home health aides which might allow you to work. Good luck!
Name: Erin Szakala
Time: 09:33 AM
Although programs vary by state, Wisconsin does offer a means for family members or friends to get paid for some of the care they provide.
To qualify for funding through Medicaid, the relative or friend must be 1) an adult 2) not the individual's spouse 3) Eligible for Medicaid and 4) in need of personal care and/or assistance with home chores as determined by an assessment. Care providers must pass a background check, a physical exam, a TB test and participate in all necessary training.
There are other situations in which a family member can be hired by an agency and paid to provide care via a long term support program (home and community based waivers) or the National Family Caregiver Support Program. Eligibility for this would depend on which program is being used.
I would suggest that you call your local aging services office or Department of Human or Social Services and inquire about any programs that are available to pay you for the care that you provide - either through Medicaid, a long term support program or programs specifically designated for caregivers. Good luck and thanks for all you do to assist your mother!
Time: 09:27 AM
When I needed help with my husband I contacted the Bexar County Area Agency on Aging. This was in San Antonio, Texas. You probably have something like that where you are. I was told that I, as his wife, could not be paid to take care of him but a son or daughter could receive that pay. Didn't think it was fair but oh well.
Time: 08:51 AM
If your mother qualifies for any kind of federal, state or county assistance, you should be able to become a caregiver (check if that means you must be a CNA) and then be assigned to her. You might only be able to get something a bit better then minimum wage, but at least it would be something.
Time: 08:33 AM
Please check with your local Alz.org, they offer free counseling to any over 60 or caring for over 60. Was your father or mother a veteran during any wartime? The VA has some options with lots of paperwork and takes time. Blessings and since you are online do searches for your state, county and city about elder (medical, legal, care giving, respite) services. And for goodness sake get into a support group!
Name: Dawn Song
Time: 08:31 AM
Check into your state's Department of Human Services. If you can't find that, start with the Social Security office for references. We were able to double our income with this program.
Time: 08:24 AM
Call your local Area Agency on Aging. They have many programs that may be able to help. Also check with Health and Human Services. Would your mom qualify for Medicaid? They have a program that would pay you as a relative provider. Good luck.
Name: Michelle Byler, Family Caregiver Specialist
Location: Harrison, AR (Area Agency on Aging)
Time: 08:24 AM
Check with your local Department of Human Services about medicaid waiver programs in your area. Depending on her resources, she may qualify for a medicaid waiver program that would allow for her to receive a certain number of personal care, homemaker, and respite hours each week. You could be hired through an agency to provide those hours for your mother. Keep in mind that any medicaid waiver program is subject to estate recovery. The other option is for you to contact your local Area Agency on Aging about applying for a caregiver grant. While this money could not be used to pay you for caring for your mother, it could be used to provide some much needed respite for you as the caregiver.
Time: 07:11 AM
Check with your Dr. about the CBA Program(Community Base Asst.) for seinor. He will have to do all paper work to get this started.
Time: 06:54 AM
She may be eligible for a Medicaid waiver for a home health aide. Check with your local Area Agency on Aging, which can also tell you about other services such as adult day care with a sliding scale fee.
Do you yourself have health insurance? Do you have adequate retirement funds? You must consider your own needs as well as hers! It may not seem like a good option, but perhaps your mother should be placed in a nursing home (paid by Medicaid when necessary) so that you can return to paid employment to ensure your own financial wellbeing. Again, the AAA or a geriatric care manager can help you explore your options.
Name: Kerry Peabody, CSA, CLTC, Long Term Care Insurance Specialist
Time: 06:51 AM
B, call your local Area Agency on Aging. It's going to depend upon what state you're in, but the Agency on Aging will be able to help you identify any possible resources that are available to you. Good luck.
Name: Patty Graves
Time: 06:43 AM
I would contact your Area Agency on Aging and determine if they have any programs that can offer support.