Just found your site tonight. My wonderful wife and
I have had a very hard week and I decided to look for help.
are both 57 years old and, up until last May, were in very good
shape--working out at the gym, walks with our Lab, camping trips, hikes
and such. I am a 23-year Army veteran (now a historical tour guide) and
my wife was working as a legal assistant until she had to quit after her
surgery for ovarian cancer.
She was diagnosed
on 16 June this year with stage IV and had surgery eight days later. Her
surgeon said the cancer had grown to the extent that and he had to
remove about half of her colon and her spleen and do a complete
hysterectomy. She now has a colostomy bag. She has had six chemo
treatments at 21 day intervals, the last on the 1st of November. In two
weeks, we go back to see how the chemo has done. The side-effects have
been getting much worse.
Her sister came to
visit this last week from Vancouver, WA for the third time. She is
wonderful and they are very close. She let me get some time away with a
couple of my buddies, which I am finding I do need sometimes.
found on your site what I hope will be a group for caregivers. I am a
tough guy—ex-drill sergeant, battery commander, race car driver, but am
finding this is the hardest thing I have ever done. Lately, I am finding
tears running down my face way too often. Some guy in front of me on the
road is five mph under the speed limit and I want to smash his face.
This is not like me; really it isn't. I am a peaceable man—love dogs,
cats and people. Just feeling a bit LOST! Thanks for listening to my
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