I am my 82-year-old mother’s caregiver. I'm 57, disabled due to depression, divorced, and overwhelmed with being a guy taking care of his mother—never EVER thought I could do it! And with NO help or concern from my brother. He lives two miles away and has not seen or talked to her since April—just worried about her land and money. She has a nurse, who I pay twice a week to bathe her.
My mother has the first stages of dementia/Alzheimer’s and several other medical problems. I have been taking care of her for about four years. She is pretty good about most things, but has fallen out of bed at night getting up to go to the bathroom, so I installed bedrails. She cannot unlock the bedrails, so I do it for her. For communication at night (or any other time), we use a portable baby monitor. (I tried using the intercom on the phone system—too much trouble. Same for the cell phone.) She can get me at any time—even on the deck or in the yard.
This sure helps me and I hope it helps another caregiver. I've picked up some good tips here, but I just won't take
everyone's advice to take care of myself. I am starting to suffer from it. I will try. Thank you, and may God bless...
Charles in Georgia
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