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This Week's Carenote - 10/02/08
Please tell me how to handle my 90 yr old mother having TV blaring where my head bounces around.  She makes me feel like it is my fault and that I should endure the loud noise.  What do I do?   HELP!
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Name: Asiza
Location: Johannesburg - South Africa
Date: 10/02/2008
Time: 05:42 AM


My mother is hard of hearing too, and without the hearing aid would have the TV blaring. My suggestions: will your mom consider wearing a hearing aid? and if that's not going to happen how about earphones that plug into the TV, then she has it as loud as she wants, and you don't have to hear it so loud. You're perfectly entitled to preserving your hearing and your sanity...:) Kind Rgs Asiza

Name: Reggie
Location: SI, NY
Date: 10/02/2008
Time: 05:48 AM


Perhaps comfortable headphones would help--or a portable TV that she can have up close to her.

Name: Anita
Location: Charlottesville, Va
Date: 10/02/2008
Time: 05:50 AM


My 92 yo uncle lives with us, and we have the same issue. We bought him TV ears ( and he really likes them. He can hear the show much better because the volume is right in his ear rather than blaring across the room. There are also wireless headsets on the market, but those are less comfortable.

Name: Dianne
Location: Scottsdale, Arizona
Date: 10/02/2008
Time: 07:32 AM


There are headphones that you can purchase for not too much money which connect to a TV by a long spiral cord, and she can crank it up as loud as she needs it to hear it and your hearing is spared. ALSO, if her TV has closed captioning, you might try putting THAT on, so she can read the words that are being spoken, and she can turn the volume down.

Name: Steve
Location: Pondicherry, India
Date: 10/02/2008
Time: 07:47 AM


My Dad used to use the TV volume instead of a hearing aid. Assuming your mom has a hearing aid already it might just be that the hearing aid she has is out of adjustment. The newer ones are adjustable for the specific frequency rages that need to be boosted. Having it properly regulated made it a lot easier to get Dad to wear it. Also get yourself some noise reduction ear plugs. They are cheap and effective. I used Flents 33 decibel foam earplugs and they can save your hearing and your sanity. I still use them since many cinemas and most pop concerts are way above my comfort range.

Date: 10/02/2008
Time: 07:55 AM


My mom was the same way, turned the tv way up. Walmart has headphone for the tv. It works for me, she loves it. js, michigan

Name: Jim
Location: Maryland
Date: 10/02/2008
Time: 08:01 AM


Get her a pair of wireless earphones from Radio Shack or one of the Heartland type of catalogues. Make sure they are the 900 Mhz type. Google "earphones" or "headsets" on the internet for many many suggestions. They should not cost more than 29 to 39 dollars plus shipping. You do not have to endure this insane behavior. It will make you sick and she will have to be put in a home because you will be in one and can't take care of her. One other thing is you can get her hearing aids or ear plugs for yourself. It is your call for some sanity so you can continue to keep her home. You have 2 choices. Also, I don't think you have told us the whole story. I don't believe this is the only insane behavior she is demonstrating. Jim in Maryland

Name: S. Christopher
Location: Arizona
Date: 10/03/2008
Time: 06:26 AM


I found that by getting a headset they can listen to their hearts desire and the rest of us do not share the loud noise--check it out --we did thank heaven. Try Best Buy or Circuit City.


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