From Don in Virginia:
I just returned from a five-day business trip. I'm a
caregiver for my wife and brought her along. She
needs a wheelchair and other assistance. When reserving
an "accessible room" in a hotel or motel, make sure you
know what you are getting. The last room had a bed
so high that if my wife were to roll out, she would need
a parachute to keep her from getting hurt. Ask questions
and call the hotel/motel back to confirm the details.
Don't assume that because it is in the reservation, you
will get what you asked for.
From Nina in Long Island, NY:
I've learned PATIENCE from my mother in this journey through dementia.
I've learned to laugh at the things she says that only make sense to her.
I've learned how to live "moment to moment" as that is the way things are in her world. In one moment, she's angry when she's washed, clothed, and changed. In the next moment, she's thanking the CNA for everything she's done in the last 10 minutes.
I've learned that it's okay to talk about it to others. It helps me and it MAY help someone else somehow.
I've learned to love the time we have together by making the most of it.
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