I have been taking care of my 90 yr old grandfather for 3 yrs and I am at my wits end because he loves doing the opposite of what he's asked to/not to do. One of which is never to leave the house without assistance (he has dementia). I finally had to put a dead bolt on the doors, so now he is misbehaving inside. He steals, hides things, lies, takes pills, drinks anything that he thinks will give him a buzz (including mouthwash). I have had put a lock on my bedroom door and (attempt to) hide all knives (he kept cutting himself) and put everything in my bedroom that would be of danger to him. One day when I was gone my husband forgot to lock our bedroom door and when I came home my grandfather could hardly walk from drinking a bottle of nyquil, had his pockets stuffed with some of my legal documents and I later found things he had taken and hidden in his room. Every time I turn around he is into something.

One time he put his lighter (he is a smoker) into the microwave and turned it on. These are just a FEW examples of how dangerous he is to himself, my family and our home, so I finally put a lock on his bedroom door, put a mini fridge in there, a potty chair, an intercom, food, TV, his favorite recliner etc. etc. in the room and I keep the door locked unless he calls me on the intercom for something. My husband thinks that I am being cruel, but I am extremely ill myself and am practically bedridden myself. We have no other family members that want him and I promised him I would never put him in a nursing home. If anyone out there has any advice/suggestions/comments/complaints..........
please reply!!! Thanks!!!