Wednesday November 23,  2005, Issue #250

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From The Editor


This is an article I have been long anticipating and dreading to write.  It is the obituary of someone who was extremely dear to me and who had been a partner in all of my endeavors since 1987. Actually, he and his sister were with me as we moved together across the southeast over the past two decades, they offered me comfort, advice, support, humor, unconditional love and wisdom every step of the way.  Dorian, his sister passed away in 1999, and maybe her death drew us closer over these past six years.  In the office, where he spent much of his last years, he always knew how to communicate with each of his fellow staff members; who needed his special brand of individualized attention, when to administer it and when to just sit and listen.

Last year, at the age of 97, he came home to live with me and truly made our house a home.  After long road trips, I looked forward to sitting and commiserating with him late into the night. Since his passing last week, I can still see him sitting on the couch, walking down the hallway, or eating in the kitchen.  

After all of these years, it shouldn’t surprise me how much of my world he inhabited, but it does.  It is still a shock to come home and not see him in the living room. He made me a believer in the power of such companionship, for caregivers and loved ones alike, and I will be forever grateful for all of the many thousands of moments I spent with him and his sister and for the love we have shared.

 Rest in Peace, my friend

18 years of age in human years
97 years of age in cat years.

Take care
Gary Barg


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Feature Article

Options in PERS
By Emily Curtis, Staff Writer

Since the 1990s, there have been a plethora of options on the market for personal emergency response systems (PERS)....Continued

Additional Articles::

Depression in the Caregiver
By Dorothy Womack

Depression seems to be part and parcel of becoming a caregiver to a loved one. Depression is, in reality, anger turned inward. This is not always obvious, nor is it easily admitted to . ...Continued

Keeping Your Balance
by Hilary Gibson, Staff Writer

There are many different theories regarding the emotional impact experienced by caregivers when placing a loved one, especially one who is living with dementia, into a long-term care facility. . ...Continued




Guest Column

Supported by Caring Communities
By Sue Stewart


In the past five years, hospicee of CNY has expanded its mission to include palliative care, and has broadened its partnership with hospitals, nursing homes, and other community organizations whose focus also includes end of life care....Continued


Surviving The Holidays
By Jennifer Kay, L.C.S.W. 

Holidays and special occasions can bring out the best and the worst in us. The prospect of wonderful, happy times abound, filling us with somewhat unrealistic hopes for our relationships.....Continued

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I care for my Mom and older mentally retarded physically handicapped brother daily after working 8+ hours. I am the only other sibling! My husband has always been very supportive until recently - the care giving began over 3 years ago. My Mom is 88, has PMR (related to arthritis), walks with assistance of one to two people plus walker, must be bathed, dressed, helped to bathroom, given skin care, helped with ADLs, meals must be cooked and kitchen cleaned after meals. At times, I must also do laundry, and clean up bathrooms. In the meantime, when my husband and I are suppose to be together (just the 2 of us!), I am either fixing her meals for the freezer, washing her clothes, purchasing groceries for her, paying her bills, etc, until he feels I am neglecting him! How do I have enough time and energy to deal with my Mom and brother, work 8+ hours, and still am supposed to have energy to be with him, fix his meals, help him with yard work, and keep the house livable? Any suggestions?


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Inside This Issue:

From the Editor
Feature Article
Options in PERS
Guest Column
Supported by
Caring Communities
Surviving the Holidays


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