For About and By Caregivers

Subscribe to our bi-monthly publication Today's Caregiver magazine

  + Larger Font | - Smaller Font

Share This Article

Saying Goodbye to Caregiving

By Jenifer Bradley, Staff Writer

(Page 2 of 3)

One of those days

A caregiver tends to put their own health on the backburner while serving in that busy role. If so, after a loss is a good time to get back on track by having a physical, joining an exercise group, or taking a relaxing vacation. After a loss, a caregiver may become irritable, have trouble sleeping or act very restless. 

Strong memories associated with a loved one who is now gone, such as birthdays, anniversaries or holidays, can trigger these frustrating symptoms.  Memories are tricky in that they offer caregivers a time to reflect, but also evoke sadness when looking back on what could have been. Missed opportunities are hard for caregivers to get past, but it helps to focus on the positive memories, the experiences and fun times shared with a loved one.

Some traditions may change with the absence of a loved one, while others may stay the same and be comforting memories. It all depends on family dynamics, as well as what memories are strongest and most important to each person.

That said, all caregivers are going to have “those days,” the ones that just don’t go by fast or easily. Support groups are a great resource for those dealing with loss, as is simply arranging a dinner with friends who will listen and be of comfort.

Some caregivers like to journal, make scrapbooks, or take up a cause their loved one found important. Whatever it is, a caregiver will benefit by finding something meaningful and enjoyable to them. Some even continue with caregiving for another family member, or professionally.

The “bookwork”

There is a lot of paperwork after the caregiving period ends.  In addition to funeral arrangements, thank you cards to family and friends, there is a lot of personal paperwork involving a loved one’s wills, assets, insurance, bills, etc. to deal with.

First and foremost, if a loved one was living independently, it’s important to make sure their home is safe from vandalism—especially if they lived alone and it is now public knowledge they are deceased. A caregiver should remove all valuables from the home, making a list of what was removed and where the item is currently. Lock all doors and windows, as well as change the locks or collect all copies of the house keys.


  1 2 3

Printable Version Printable Version



Related Articles

Mom's Day

After Caregiving: Picking Up The Pieces

When Caregiving is Over: The Well-Being of Caregivers of Parents with Dementia


Follow Us on Facebook Follow Us on Twitter Follow Us on Youtube Follow us on Pinterest Google Plus