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Nugget #3: Happiness is always
available. As a caregiver, it never
occurred to me that I could choose happiness.
Unfortunately, my happiness was relative; dependent
on my son’s ability to get out of bed, make a cup of
coffee and list the handicapped van on Craig’s List.
Until those things happened, there was no reason for
happiness, laughter or whimsy. Not even for a minute
of joy that comes with a spontaneous belly laugh, a
Nora Ephron passage or a Monty Python movie clip.
Don’t repeat my mistake. My mentor and my
daily philosophy have taught me that absolute
happiness is never created or destroyed by external
circumstances. Absolute happiness is
readily available and always there for the taking.
Absolute happiness is a choice. And as
caregivers, we can learn to make different choices.
Go on; give yourself permission to experience five
minutes of happiness. Then, really go
crazy and create ten minutes of happiness for
Wisdom waits for all of us; in time, we discover
it. Eventually. Seriously, don’t
underestimate the power of eventually.
DJ Hot Flap Jacks wouldn’t.
Julie is a Certified
Thanatologist, master facilitator and author. She
designed, and facilitates, Mourning Yoga, The
Mourning Employment Workshop and The Mourning
Milestones Workshop. Julie is the author of a
non-denominational, nationally recognized,
children’s journal, We Love Each Other: A Healing
Journal for Grieving Children, available through
Julie also contributes as an inspirational
speaker; her message focuses on transforming
adversity and choosing happiness. Eventually.