Special ‘treats’ rouse the spirits of everybody involved with the stroke patient. We can’t take for granted the common events such as going for a ride in the car or giving a biscuit to the dog. The stroke patient who has difficulty getting around thrives on getting a change of scenery or visiting places he used to frequent. For our patient going past the plant where he worked for thirty-five years boosts his mood for days at a time. Other special treats include visits from friends and cards from school children. 

Include the stroke patient in as many events as possible. Although he may not communicate easily, including him in conversations is good for his positive mental outlook. Moving him around is a difficult task for the family but one which must be undertaken to maintain his emotional well-being. For our patient the trip to his granddaughter’s wedding and reception was a huge undertaking but one worth the effort when the joy was shared by all. Other times to include him are more easily accomplished. For example, we arrange gifts for him to give at Christmas and birthdays. He participates in the selection and wrapping. 

Living with the stroke patient at home is not for every family. One member of the family needs to become the driving force behind the effort. In the Meadows family that person is the patient’s wife. Medications must be closely monitored. Services of doctors, nurses, aides and therapists must be scheduled. Doctors, hospital and pharmacy bills and Medicare and insurance payments are accurately watched and recorded. 

Overall, our family experience has been rewarding. The little triumphs from day to day far outweigh the effort and frustrations. Taking time, being composed and possessing boundless energy are necessary but not easy. Employing innovative thinking and maintaining focus on the solution to daily obstacles to the patient’s comfort and happiness is a challenge to family, friends and caregivers.