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Give Yourself a Break, Right Now
Doctor appointments that must be
scheduled; the constant care and attention your loved
one needs, both physically and emotionally; the back and
forth to grocery stores, drug stores, physical therapy
sessions and, most of all, the need to know you are
doing the "right thing" for the loved one in need of your
care. We all know the daily challenges we face as
caregivers and that we seldom have time for ourselves.
But we need time Ėtime to reflect, relax and rejuvenate
for at least few hours each week. This "private time"
gives us a renewed strength to carry on. It's important
to take that time. You deserve it. AND, should not feel
guilty about it.
There are ways to allow yourself time away. For an hour,
a day or even a weekend to collect your thoughts and get
back on track. It's okay to do that. Listen, you've got
a very important role to play - if you do not care for
yourself, who will step in to care for you AND your
loved one. I want to share with you some of the things
Take the time to read through my "guilt free" list and I
know you'll be a better caregiver for it...
Accept the help others offer. Suggest specific things
they can do for you and your loved one. This is rule #1
for a reason. No one is a Super Hero. Don't feel like
you're the only one that can take dad to the doctor or
your wife to her physical therapist. REACH OUT and ask
another family member -- or close family friend -- to
assist you occasionally so you have time to yourself.
Trust in their willingness to help. Many times they do
not know how to reach out and help unless you are able
to communicate your needs.
Ask for and accept favors such as; a friend staying with
your loved one while you are able to get out of the
house for a while, a dinner being cooked for you and
your loved one once a week, an offer to go to the
supermarket or drugstore in your place. Respite can be
achieved on a daily basis with the smallest of
Know your limits! If you wear yourself out caring for
your loved one, who will step in to care for the both of
you? Remember, caring for yourself is not selfish, itís
the greatest gift you can give your loved one.